Some people look for relationship guidance in the words of great thinkers. Alain De Botton's 'Essays in Love" is the pseudo-intellectual alternative to "It's Called a Breakup Called It's Broken".
Zoe and I prefer to look for love wisdom in other places. Oftentimes, it's in the groundbreaking lyrical genius of such artists as Destiny's Child. Their work can be applied to a multitude of relationship situations.
Case in point: Bugaboo
I wanna put your number on the call block/ Have AOL make my e-mail stop/ Cause you're a bugga boo/ A bugga what you buggin who you buggin me and don't you see it ain't cool.
Shot from all sides. Recently called to our attention, it's unfathomable to us how someone can justify emailing a girl multiple times, then calling, texting and Facebook messaging them repeatedly. With no response, how can you continue?
It's like Beyonce says:
If you liked it, you should have put a ring on it.
Or, may we suggest, a return to the handwritten letter, the mixtape in the mailbox, or how about asking someone out for a real, live drink, rather than being a stalky internet creep?
Then there's the other angle, when you're separated from someone you actually like by distance and all that digital flirtation is getting silly. Look to the words of 50 Cent and Justin Timberlake, who in the imaginatively titled Technology encapsulate this feeling immaculately:
Baby you're so new age, you like my new craze/ Let's get together maybe we can start a new phase
The smokes got the club all hazy, spotlights don't do you justice baby/ Why don't you come over here, you got me saying/ Aayooh/ I'm tired of using technology, why don't you sit down on top of me/ Aayooh
The smokes got the club all hazy, spotlights don't do you justice baby/ Why don't you come over here, you got me saying/ Aayooh/ I'm tired of using technology, why don't you sit down on top of me/ Aayooh
Or TLC's seminal work, No Scrubs; which repeatedly underlines the universal truth that is:
There's a scrub checkin' me/ But his game is kinda weak/ And i know that he cannot approach me/ Cuz i'm lookin' like class and he's lookin' like trash/ Can't get wit' no deadbeat ass.
But most often, however, we look to the profound and eloquent philosophies of modern-day philosophers, nay, poets such as Jay- Z and Notorious BIG. In fact, whenever we are faced with (99) problems, we simply ask, What Would Jay-Z Do?
